It robs you of your life at parties. Makes you contemplate suicide on airplanes. Doubles your time at the gym, and usually slaps you around like a little bitch at the mall.
This unholy bastard child of interesting conversation and violent murderer of free time is none other than UNNECESSARY SMALL TALK.
Its likely happened to us all. You’re rushing through the mall trying to pick up a few quick items and head home for sanctuary. You’re one pack of Mach3s away from being finished your “To Do” list and you mistakenly smile and make eye contact with someone you haven’t seen in 5 years, and had honestly forgotten about them until that very moment. You’d like to turn and make a dead sprint for the exit doors but now Johnny Acquaintance is only footsteps away from being in your personal space.
After direct eye contact there are 3 options you may exercise:
Option #1 Cold Hearted - Pretend you never saw them. Be the asshole and just walk by.
Option #2 Duck and Cover - Take a hard left/right into whatever store you happen to be in front of and hope its gender appropriate. (as its next to impossible to be a believable male shopper in Additional Elle)
And Option #3 which plagues my existence, usually plays out like this,
“Hey Mike, long time no see, how’s it going?”
“Its going good. Just off to my last store and then straight home.” (my make shift plea for freedom)
“Ya I hear that. I’ll probably be here for at least another couple hours. SOOOOO, what have you been up to?”
This is the exact moment where if this were a dream fantasy I would throw this person from the top level of the mall down onto the make-up kiosk on the lower level.
Back to reality I secretly ask myself; How in the hell does Larry King here expect me to BRIEFLY sum up my last 5 years of living while standing in front of the Disney Store??
Scrambling for a quick reply I usually muster out a “Just workin’ in Toronto. Trying to the live the dream” THEN, out of deepest, dumbest, most thoughtless part of my brain comes; “How about you?” This desperate cycle of empty questions and answers always goes on for far longer than it should until the person who’s the most bored gives the old, “Well, I’ll let you go, but it was really great seeing you. We should grab a drink sometime” Both parties agree, and walk away, fully aware of the fact that they’ve exchanged no contact info. making meeting for a drink virtually impossible.
Now don’t misunderstand me, there are plenty of people from days gone by that I am very happy to see and don’t mind spending the 20+ minutes catching up with. However, for some reason I rarely see those people (very possibly because they’ve seen me first and ducked into an HMV). For me its always Tommy Too Cool from university that once drank 14 beers in a 3 hours period and has since dedicated his life to breaking that record.
Here and now I propose we make a change. A step in the direction of more efficient daily encounters. We’ll call it OPTION #4 - The Gentleman’s Maneuvre
Back to the mall scenario; when running into a long forgotten acquaintance that you have no desire to start the jog down the million word mile with, make sure you speak first:
“Hey John, Good to see you. I’m glad you’re still alive”
Because that’s the bare bones truth. You’re glad this person is still living and nothing terrible has happened to them, but aside from that, you’d rather spend the next 20min at Dairy Queen gorging yourself on a KitKat Blizzard.
Upon hearing the “Glad you’re alive” remark, your acquaintance is made aware of the situation and is obliged to say, “Thanks, you too. Have a great day” This should be followed by a high 5 –just because I’m trying to bring it back– and both parties walk away.
The key to this being successful is that no one should be left feeling rejected or insulted. The reality is that time is precious, and we never know what’s going on in someone else’s life. So if they wish to just go on their merry way, be content they care you’re alive and didn’t choose to exercise options #1 or 2.
So from today on lets do away with these senseless one act plays, and fake handshakes and get ourselves home to our loved ones faster.
Or at least walk with me to buy my Blizzard.
Together we CAN make a difference. If anyone out there knows any executives from NBC that would be willing to run this idea for a “THE MORE YOU KNOW…” commercial, please let me know. I’d also like Chuck Norris or Mr.T to be the celebrity endorser.
All comments and suggestions are welcomed and encouraged.
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Ha! Amusing commentary.
I have a friend who is surprisingly good at turning around and walking away. No joke. He’s from Toronto, so maybe it’s a skill you pick up as an oddly polite Canuck. I’ve seen him do it. He glazes over, looks around or at someone who may be there if there happens to be three in the group and just turns and leaves with no word. I guess he knows that if he is to deal with this person again he can deal with it then, in four more years.
Try it. The Glaze-n-Walk.
p.s - high fives are back, with attitude.
“Hey Mike, Good to see you. I’m glad you’re still alive”
Hey when I have more time I’ll buy you a blizzard ~ High Five ~
Have a great day
:o)
@Torbjorn, thats a hilarious story.
The Glaze-n-Walk. Such an asshole move but I admittedly love it. I also had a funny suggestion by a friend of mine that I think he got from a movie.
If you happen along one of these encounters outdoors, just start yelling, “Bees! Bees! Bees!! They’re everywhere!” Then just start flailing your arms and run away. Just to get a laugh out of me I actually saw him do this when he ran into an ex-girlfriend. I nearly wet myself.
Bees, nice.